Question
I need sober advice, and I will be following keenly.
I am a single mother of two children. One is in Grade 9, and the other has just joined Grade 1. I am separated from their father, but he is financially involved and willing to support me.
I have been jobless for the past three years, but I have recently secured a job in a new company that has just started operations, earning KES 35,000 per month. My ex-husband is willing to support me in moving abroad, on the condition that I move together with the children.
I am 35 years old, turning 36 this year. I am open to moving to Canada or any Schengen country. However, there are so many con people out there that I am unsure where to start.
Where do I begin?
1️⃣ SIMPLIFIED
Moving abroad with two school-going children is not just a visa issue — it is a financial and legal decision.
Right now, an income of KES 35,000 and a 3-year job gap make relocation very difficult, especially to Canada or Schengen countries. Age is not the problem — finances, stability, and documentation are.
Canada and Schengen countries have no shortcuts. Anyone promising guaranteed visas or fast processing is lying.
The right place to start is not agents or Facebook groups, but official government websites. First build 6–12 months of stable income, organize custody and consent documents for the children, and then choose one realistic pathway (study or skilled work).
You are not late or failing. The best move now is preparation, not rushing to leave — especially with children involved.
2️⃣ RESPONSE
I want to acknowledge how heavy this situation is. You are carrying responsibility for two children, financial pressure, and uncertainty about the future — and still, you are asking the right questions. That already shows strength.
Moving abroad with children is not a decision that should be made out of fear or urgency. It requires stability, not just hope. Your age is not a problem at all. What matters most right now is building a solid foundation: steady income, clear documentation, and time.
It’s also important to protect yourself from exploitation. Legitimate immigration processes are slow, transparent, and never guaranteed. Anyone offering shortcuts or asking for large upfront payments is not acting in your best interest.
This does not mean you cannot move abroad. It simply means that this season is for preparation, not pressure. Focus on stabilizing your work situation, strengthening your skills, and planning carefully. When the time is right, the path will be much clearer — and safer for you and your children.
You are not behind. You are preparing.
3️⃣ STEP-BY-STEP GUIDANCE (PRACTICAL)
Step 1: Pause and Assess
- Accept that relocation with children is a long-term plan, not an emergency move.
- Stop engaging with agents promising fast or guaranteed results.
Step 2: Stabilize Locally (6–12 months)
- Build a consistent employment record.
- Save gradually, even small amounts.
- Consider short courses or certifications to improve employability.
Step 3: Get Children’s Documents in Order
- Written consent from the father
- Custody arrangements
- Birth certificates and school records
Step 4: Choose One Realistic Pathway
- Skilled work (if your profession is in demand), or
- Study (only if finances genuinely allow it)
Step 5: Use Official Sources Only
- Canada: IRCC official website
- Schengen countries: Individual embassy websites
Step 6: Ignore Shortcuts
- No guaranteed visas
- No “connections”
- No pressure to pay large upfront fees
Step 7: Move When Ready
- Relocate only when finances, documents, and eligibility align — not out of fear or desperation.
🌱 FINAL WORD
The goal is not just to leave — it is to leave safely, legally, and sustainably, with your children protected. Preparation now will save you from heartbreak later.
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